Finding Clarity
The Powerful State of Letting Go
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When faced with how to respond to a situation, it is easy to get caught up into the game of control. If you come from that place, people will pick up on your hidden agenda and it will color the interaction. We are all guilty of this, and I am no exception, but there are ways to move into greater clarity.
A friend and his partner were recently discussing with me a business negotiation, where he wanted to wait for the other person to reach out. His partner was concerned that if he did that, he wouldn’t get the job.
We talked back and forth on the subject, gaming out each scenario and what the result would be. I could feel the energy moving into trying to control the outcome of the situation, so I told him the first thing that I do in a situation like this.
I ask for the Light, send the Light, and give it up into the Light for the highest good.
Once we reframed it in this way, I said “if you didn’t care about the outcome, what do you know is the right approach.” He said, “Silence.”
I could hear the truth and conviction in his voice. There was no question.
Based on our discussion to this point, I knew he was already clear that waiting was the best approach. He knew this all along intuitively, but his mind and his partner were second guessing his inner knowing.
When you detach from the outcome, you gain clarity. When you actually let go, it is a powerful place to act from.
If you are pretending to not be attached, but actually have an agenda, people will pick that up. You truly have to detach. Placing it in the Light can be a way to help you let go.
I recall an example from my life that took place many years ago, and was a demonstration of the power in detachment.
I was in a meeting that involved my spiritual teacher, John-Roger (J-R), regarding a project in relation to the 30,000 pieces of media from his years of seminars, retreats, etc. The person in charge of his media was presenting all of the details of the project, but the people in charge of managing the money of his organization were not on board.
Everyone was going back and forth while J-R listened. It was an intense conversation, and there was no agreement about proceeding. Everyone had very strong views.
Finally, someone asked J-R what he thought.
He said, “Let’s just burn it all.” Meaning his media. The way he said it, you could tell he was serious. He wasn’t playing.
Some eyes got really big. There was a moment of shocked quiet in the room.
Everyone quickly backed away from their positions. The one thing everyone agreed on is that no one wanted to burn it all. They knew J-R could be radical and it was best not to mess around. We all quickly came into one accord, the project was green lit, and those present worked through the details.
His detachment towards the situation clarified what was important for everyone else. That level of letting go can be shocking, but it is a very powerful place to live from.
When you find yourself trying to figure out the best approach, and moving into attempting to control the outcome…
Stop.
Put it into the Light, asking for the highest good to take place.
Trust that the outcome will be for the best.
Take a breath.
Breathe it out.
Then listen to what your inner knowing is telling you.
If you still aren’t experiencing clarity, think of how the most enlightened person would look at the situation. How they might respond. If you know someone like that, maybe even ask them their viewpoint.
These are practical approaches to finding greater clarity in the decisions you make in your life.
